Terror Bomb in Indonesia - How to raise a child without a dad
I was so shocked to hear the news. At that time, I was about to go to South Jakarta and my Japanese friend said, “There was a bomb in a hotel in Jakarta!” I said, “What? I didn’t know about that. How did you know that?” ”There was a news on my phone.”
Suddenly my phone ringing. It was my mom calling, she asked me to be more careful on the road because of the bomb.
When I got back home, I saw a terrible news about a man who was about to have his third baby coming on that day. His wife asked him not to go to work and accompany her to the hospital, but that man decided to go to work and unfortunately, he was on the wrong place in the wrong time…. That was the end of his day forever. He couldn’t see his third baby coming, he couldn’t accompany his wife and children growing up,…. (That’s why you have to listen to your wife at some point!)
Well,… I know it’s difficult to raise 2 children and a baby as a single parent. How to introduce dad’s figure without him alive? Should we lie to our children that their dad went somewhere and will be back soon? Should we cover the real story and make a new story about their dad?
It will be very difficult to make them understand at the first time, but I think it is better to tell them the fact that their dad is gone and you guys will meet again one day. Explain to them and make them understand, do not lie about this. If you start with a lie, you will keep on doing it over and over again and it will hurt more at the end when children find out that their dad is gone.
After that, you can show some pictures or video about dad, probably on his birthday. You can ask your children to pray together for daddy, draw some picture and hang it on the wall. In this way, you can make children appreciate their dad even though their dad is not around anymore. I think that is the best way… What do you think?
Thanks for posting about this, I would like to read more about this topic.
Hi There,… Thank you for your comment. Yes, I’ll write down more about this topic.